Family can be a challenging…
Sometimes we fight like cats and dogs.
Other times we can fight like dogs and cats…
No one’s always right and no one wins in trivial family fights.
Putting our differences aside to share our real opinions and get guiding perspectives from family is important. Too bad it doesn’t seem to be appreciated in many North American households today. The grounding effect of family and a place of home is important for everyone. Without it we are all edgy about living life month to month.
The advantages of family are (or should be) obvious.
Love, trust, support and understanding are just four of many structural pillars to build a strong family foundation. This is something that the newer generations might not experience as much as previous generations. In recent times we haven’t had to deal with the loss and grieving of family and friends due to world wars as much as previous generations.
Today it’s Ok to be impersonal, we show less courtesy, manners are not always in evidence, work ethic is missing, as are faith and other long-term commitments.
Seems that having no respect is almost respectable. Showing you care is a sign of weakness? Hopefully people today will find a way to get off of their ‘its’ all about me wagon’ and be strong by caring for those who are in need. Unfortunately, Moms and Dads aren’t always creating a good example these days with so many marriages ending in divorce, it’s sad.
The one thing that will save our world is co-operation, collaboration and possibly a huge world event to provoke a new attitude towards caring for others in this world (Refugee Crisis) to help give us all a kick-start into helping, instead of hurting others.
Love, respect and caring for others are not easy lessons to learn… Sometimes you need your brothers or sisters to kick your ass back into line, (it may hurt) but it can be helpful? Family and home is the place to start, yet The Family today is challenged with time, money and life issues making it harder to have and care for large, medium or even small families.
The family dynamic is an important ingredient we need more of injected into our culture. Social media hooks us up with networks of opinions and attitudes that are generally shallow. Families in the past grew up working together, built businesses and stuck together through thick and thin times. In previous generations, people had more uncles and aunts, they had a human network of cousins and nephews… They laughed, loved and cried together – all in person, none of this virtual presence stuff.
These days? Family connections, maybe so and maybe not so much so…
Used to be people had more time for family. Like ‘working the back 40’ and having meals together, and more than just on Sundays after going to Church together. In the past it seemed that most family people could all find work nearby and didn’t have to leave town, or exit their own family circle in order to raise a family. Sometimes a family home can be a real pain in the A-Frame, other times our family’s shared memories and feelings are what we gain that gives us the meaning and reasons to be in our life – others!
There’s a special kind of energy in reminiscing with friends and family, we each remember somewhat differently, but albeit we all enjoy the fun of remembering together.
So next time you see your friends and families, make a point of trying to pay-it-forward, to make them know they are special and loved. It’s might surprise you how much caring for others can pay-it-back to you with creating love-loops of good energy, the more of this energy you give, the more it goes into a out into the universe and creates positive vibes for everyone.
Love and gratitude are rewarding gifts to give freely (they don’t cost much, and shouldn’t ever run out) and to share around the town and with all of those you love. Just think about the difference of energy between a handshake and a hug with love!
Family should hove a special place in our hearts, and it should get more respect. Family that doesn’t see each other is missing out on one of the most human of pleasures. Adding the good feeling family and the golden glow of sharing memorable moments (in what can otherwise be challenging times on our planet) is the message we should be teaching to our next generations.
So be a hero in your family and and show you know; Occupy Your Space with Grace and be free with your love to everyone.
Make it your family tradition to give and live generously – it shows a good example, builds strong roots and makes for better stories in your family history 🙂